My Greatest Segué.

I think some of the most worthwhile things I've done in my life have been difficult. I mean, excruciatingly difficult. Grad school for chemistry is challenging and exhausting, Ironman physically broke me, and claiming Marine Corps boot camp was "intense" doesn't quite capture the moment -- but in hindsight they were all difficulties and struggles that shaped and defined me. They were all worthwhile experiences. They pushed my limits, expanded my thresholds, and helped me become who I am. They built character, grew resolve, and most importantly, forced dedication on my part. Yet, none of the above were easy or painless.

There is a certain amount of respect that tends to be given to people who have done such things. They have tangibly demonstrated that they are not afraid of a challenge and that they have dedication to something greater. Even amidst adversity they don't quit. They are relentless in their pursuit, and their reward is completing what they have set out to do. In short, challenge and difficulty bestow value more powerfully than anything else.

The last thought that occurs to me, is that when challenging things are done with other people, they become very close. They are refined through the trial and have learned how to depend on each other. One sees this all the time in the military -- having endured the same suffering and hardships, and having overcome challenges together, a brotherhood is formed by soliders returning from combat.

To summarize: difficult circumstances and challenging trials force commitment while bestowing worth and value and deepening relationships between people.

So, where am I going with this? Just one word: Sex. (I told you, my greatest segué ever.)

Yesterday I listened to a podcast on Dating Relationships by Dr. Benji Kelley of newHope Church. (And those would be the most links I've ever put in one sentence.) While there was much that was said, he emphasized that sex was intended ONLY after marriage, as that preserved the sanctity of the covenant formed between husband and wife. He didn't pull any punches either. I think we all can relate to how challenging, tempting, and difficult things can get while dating.

Which means, this is where things should be coming together. Remaining committed to not having sex before marriage is hard. Very hard. But overcoming that challenge, especially with a significant other or fiancé, gives it value. It makes it worth so much more. Through the challenges and trials, overcoming them together will lead to a stronger degree of commitment, a greater fullness in the relationship, and a deeper level of intimacy. Though I speak from a position exclusively formed upon speculation, isn't that what marriage is about?

So yeah, marriage and sex are sacred. We need to be viewing them in that light and realize that in having sex before marriage we lose out on one of the most beautiful gifts God has for us and some of his greatest blessings. So say no. Please, say no. We're all worth waiting for.